Fight Fair

I came upon this list today. I needed it two days ago. Maybe you'll need it tomorrow: (source)

• Know what you’re fighting about


• Stick to one subject only


• Be direct - say how you feel, say what you require


• Choose the time of your battles carefully


• Keep quarrels private


• Don’t read your partner’s mind


• Don’t expect your partner to read your mind


• Don’t Blame


• Own your own feelings - this means starting sentences with ‘I feel’, not ‘you make me feel’


• Don’t talk each other down


• Don’t hit below the belt


• Don’t wear the belt too high


• Don’t bring up past fights and use them as ammunition for the present one


• Actively listen


• No physical Violence